Though there are still many strides to make when it comes to our money and bodies in a “MAN’S WORLD”, we have come a looooooooong way ladies! We are more educated and self-sufficient than ever before. But still, our life achievements appear meaningless without a man’s stamp of wife-worthiness. Now I can understand why men play the “why you ain’t never been married” card. Penis privilege and double standards entitle them to question a woman’s single hood even when they’re NOT married!
No! I’m talking about those of us claiming pussy power! Why do we frequently put down women who don’t have a man? We are often heard degrading women who have not FOUND A MAN! No matter the subject of debate, women are often heard clapping back at other women, “Where your man at, Boo?!” As if nothing in the world matters without a man to back up whatever the hell a woman thinks she’s got the nerve to be trying to do without one! Oh, before some sword-swinging sistah feels the need to defend men: This HAS NOTHING to do with bashing, hating or not needing a MAN! This is about women single-shaming other women!
There are many of us who feel damn right comfortable sleeping, eating, movie watching and traveling alone… without feeling LONELY! Know the difference. And it’s not some game we play in order to pretend we’re happy. Getting a man is not nearly as hard as propaganda would have us to believe. Furthermore, having a man is not going to guarantee a lonely-free life. There are plenty of married people who feel alone and lonely.
So I guess the journey of life leads back to the individual. As the old folks would say, “You were born by yourself and you’re going to die by yourself!” Love and matrimony are life’s icing…don’t make it out to be your birthday cake, Goddesses!